I think on every writer’s way to making themselves heard, and if they’re heard by enough people, they’re bound to piss someone off.
My brother, a far more AWESOME and HILARIOUS writer than me, used to write for the sports section of my hometown paper and would get irate coaches or pissed off parents scolding him for something he misquoted or kids name his misspelled.
Phillip Yancy, the author of “What’s So Amazing About Grace” (an excellent book I’m reading currently), is rather fearless in some of the questions he answers about spirituality and in turn… pisses off A LOT of people.
I’ve had disagreements and arguments as a result of some of the things I’ve written but no one has attacked me personally… up until recently. I hadn’t been so “lucky” as to have someone write something oozing with hatred for me.
If stirring the pot is indeed part of becoming a (somewhat) successful writer… then I guess I’m on my way!
Back before I changed to my current “Hands To War” blog… I was at “Virtual Hugs”. I changed because I wanted a new start and quite frankly… the name “Virtual Hugs” was starting to just sound a little too sissy for me. I still check Virtual Hugs from time to time to see what kind of attention it’s getting despite the fact it hasn’t been actively updated for a while.
The other day, I had two new comments on Virtual Hugs that needed to be moderated. If you’re not a blog writer, then this means “someone new” has posted a comment about something you’ve written. The comments were in response to an old post I’d written almost a year ago as part of a series I’d written about my tattoos and what they meant. Felicia had this to say about my post:
Wow. You’re a jerk. I know the “dragon lady” and her “dragon man” very well . They are really kind people oh and before you talk about peoples “weight problem” you should take a look in the mirror you’re not that great yourself. I hope you’re tattoo fades. Rude ass.
Apparently she thought of some other things to say because she made a second comment:
Oh not only that how lame could you be? A blog about your tattoos. Puhlease you do not have works of art. Oh and congrats on the nautical star you’re like so original. Typical douche tattoo.
Of course, you’ll need to read this to know what she’s referring to when talking about the “dragon lady” and her “dragon man”. Basically, the lady that gave me the tattoo was rather large as was her husband. While, I admit, I probably could have omitted the part about how large they were, it still didn’t take away from the fact that (a) she did a great job on the lettering, (b) she did a crappy job on the crown (c) I got the tattoo in a double-wide trailer, and (d) I was understandably nervous at my surroundings.
I responded to her comments:
Hey Felicia, you’re right… I’m not that great myself… never claimed to be. I also never doubted that the dragon lady and dragon man are very kind people. The fact that dragon lady was so large has nothing to do with the fact she was a nice person.
Fact of the matter is… this is my forum to write and I can write about whatever the hell I want to write about. So if you don’t like it… don’t read it.
This is my old blog BTW. If you wanna make more hateful comments on my current stuff go to http://www.handstowar.wordpress.com
I’m guessing she was upset that I called the dragon lady and her husband “whales”… that is a derogatory comment and for that I apologize. Perhaps I should have called them “gigantic”. I’m sure if you asked them they would agree with me! It certainly didn’t seem like they were in any hurry to lose weight judging by the way her husband lounged behind an empty pizza box and gnawed on Cheetos while watching “The Last Samurai”.
The dragon lady looked nothing like this… but she did tattoo me with a sword… okay maybe not… nothing in this picture represents my tattoo from her at all come to think of it
I certainly am not one to judge people and their problems because I have plenty of OCD, anxiety and depression problems that I skewer myself with often but I was just explaining things in my post “as I saw it”. My impressions of their location and their physical appearance had nothing to do with the job she did or the kind of person she is. Dragon Lady was indeed very nice as was her husband. I have no problem with them as people and I’m sure they deal with their own demons as we all do every day. But the fact remains, I wouldn’t recommend her if you wanted to get a tattoo and I would recommend her to move her shop out of her double wide and work on eating a little healthier if she wants to build her business. I’m sure they’d both feel a lot better about themselves. That’s not judging… it’s the truth and sometimes the truth hurts.
Also… while a nautical star tattoo may not be particularly unique, I don’t think it completely classifies me as a douche. She obviously didn’t read the most recent post about all my newer tattoos either because they are decidedly unique and “non-douchey”.
The true mark of a douchebag I suppose
Okay… I’m done.