Preface: I absolutely have no qualms with kids in day care at all. Personally for us… it didn’t work so don’t think I’m judging anyone by the decisions they have to make.
It was almost a year ago when I wrote about Bunny’s transition from career woman to stay-at-home mommy. I was initially opposed to the idea… having to survive off my income alone scared the crap out of me. We had survived as a couple on dual income (or DINKs i.e. Dual Income No Kids) ever since we’d been together. Now that a beautiful child was in the mix I couldn’t imagine how we would ever survive without two incomes.
Fortunately, the good Lord had us in his crosshairs.
I was initially opposed. I thought she should at least try to find another job. “How are we going to survive without two FULL incomes!” I’d argue. “Tons of kids go to day care every day and there’s nothing wrong with them!”
Through the tears welling up in her eyes, she would convey to me how much she hated leaving DLG with someone else. It should be her responsibility to raise our child… not someone else.
My priorities were indeed all jacked up.
But they changed.
Bunny is with DLG every day and loves her in a way that no day care worker could ever convey. Would DLG have received “love” from day care workers? Yes… but it wouldn’t be mama’s love. That is more precious than any salary.
My heart became increasingly softened to the idea as I watched DLG grow and become (what I truly believe) the most beautiful, most intelligent, most loving little girl in the world today. She’s almost two now with the vocabulary to match most three year olds. She can count to ten, sing part of her ABC’s, sing Yo Gabba Gabba songs, remember friends names and identify her mother’s boobs every time Daddy asks where they are (much to his amusement).
Tears of joy stream down my face in thanks to her for making me a believer. I can’t believe I was ever opposed to her being a stay-at-home mom. I was undeniably selfish.
It’s funny though how things have a way of working themselves out.
Bunny kept an open mind about working again: “If the right thing came along,” she’d say, “I’d maybe explore the possibility of going back to work.”
As it turns out, she’s a valuable commodity in the workaday world.
She was lead kicking and screaming down a path that resulted in an offer of a job making nearly twice what I make currently. It was even in the line of work she aspired to be in before we’d even met each other!
I can’t tell you how many prayers, talks, sleepless nights, tears of anguish and refiguring numbers we’ve had between the two of us trying to make a decision on what to do.
We finally decided the opportunity was too good for her to pass up… especially in this economy.
So, she will start her new job in a little more than a week.
DLG will not go to a day care. We’ve hired a very nice nanny named Miranda after running her through a gauntlet of questions, checking her background, talking to her friends, following her home, having her spend the day with us and implanting a device in her brain so we can listen to her thoughts.
After everything I’ve said, you may be asking yourself, “Why? I thought you wanted DLG to be with her mama?”
Well… I do… but after weeks in thought and prayer… we’ve both come to a realization that we’re being led somewhere in completely the opposite direction we had originally planned.
But you’ll have to wait until a later post to see what that is.
In the meantime, you can keep my beautiful Bunny in your thoughts and prayers. While for some, it may not seem that difficult to leave their kids in the hands of others… it is tearing Bunny to pieces. My heart honestly breaks a thousand times over for her. While the opportunities in this job are there for her to be involved with DLG more than any other job… she still feels like she’s abandoning her post earlier than she had planned.
I assure her she is not.
There are not enough things I can say in this post about how proud of her I am. She has been a wife and mother for the ages… and that will never change.
I love you honey. Thanks for being my hot wife and DLG’s hot mommy. Thanks for being with a “5” even though you’re a stunning “10”.