First Dates Are Awkward

Happy February 1st.  Since this is the month that contains Valentines Day, I’ve decided to dedicate each week of this month to someone/something I love.  The 1st – 7th of this month are dedicated to my beautiful daughter: DLG.


Bunny had a function to go to the other night and she asked me what DLG and I were going to do during her absence.

“Hmmm,” I said almost instantaneously blushing, “I was, uh… kinda thinkin’ about asking DLG out on a date?”

DLG and I have hung out by running errands together or going to the park or even going to kiddie themed indoor amusement areas… but never out on the town at night exclusively just with each other!  I was frightened at what people might say when seeing a rather large, out-of-shape, tattooed (but still extremely good-looking) man with a much MUCH younger girl.

“Oh honey,” my wife cooed as her brow furrowed and her eyebrows lifted, “That sounds soooooo sweet!  What are you going to do?”

“I was thinkin’ maybe we’d go to eat and then see a movie or something.”

My wife nodded approvingly and encouraged me to just ask her already!!  So, gathering my wits about me, I nervously approached DLG as she sat amongst assorted plastic fruits and vegetables.

“Uh… excuse me DLG,” I said with my lip nervously quivering, “Do you have a minute?  I wanted to ask you something.”

“Yeah daddy. Okay.  I just don’t care!” She said.

I kicked aside a plastic cabbage and flicked away a tiny pile of plastic eggs and sat down next to her, “If you’re not too busy tomorrow reading books or pretending you’re an airplane I was wondering if you’d like to… maybe… uh, go to dinner and maybe a movie with me?”

When I get nervous my butt tends to sweat a lot.  If you’d walked in on us at that moment you’d have noticed it appeared as though I’d sat on a sponge.

I eagerly awaited DLG’s response, “Yeah.  That would be okay daddy.” She finally said.

I jumped up, fist-pumped and then said to her, “YOU ARE NOT GOING TO REGRET THIS!  WE ARE GOING TO HAVE AN AWESOME TIME!  So… around six o’clock tomorrow then?”

I didn’t even wait for her to answer that question.  I wanted to get out of there before she changed her mind.


The following evening, I wore my best jeans and made sure my Iron Man t-shirt had been ironed perfectly to where there were no wrinkles.  I sprayed my tennis shoes to keep the funk away and kept my Texas Rangers hat firmly wedged on my head to keep my white-man afro from scaring away the patrons of the restaurant we were going to attend.  I wanted to look the best for my date with DLG.

DLG emerged from her room wearing the newest ensemble of clothing her mother had just purchased for her (I should have snapped a picture dammit).  Her theme was leopard.  The pattern adorned her shoes, jacket and the bow in her hair.  She smiled her best smile.

“Are you ready for our date?” I said with as much confidence I could muster.

“Let’s do our date daddy.” She said. 

I breathed a sigh of relief.  She wasn’t going to cancel on me.

We laughed over a gourmet dinner of pizza, french fries and hamburgers.  We even ordered a fabulous brownie dessert complete with ice cream.  She accidentally slapped me on the face with a spoon covered in ice cream.  We both laughed hysterically.

“She likes me.” I thought.

After dinner we saw the movie “Yogi Bear”.  Not the best choice in a first date movie but we cuddled next to each other and whispered about what was going on the whole movie.

There wasn’t much to whisper about… it was a pretty horrible movie…

As we exited the movie theater parking lot and as our date was nearing its end, I asked her with more confidence… if she had a good time on our first date.

She said, “Yeah daddy… when are we going on our date?”

“Uh… we just did honey.” I replied realizing that perhaps she still was too young to understand the concept of “a date”.

Before we neared the house, she faintly whispered something below the roar of the song”Lolli Lolli” sung by the harmonic group Three 6 Mafia.

“What was that honey?” I said while simultaneously turning down the music.

“I love you daddy.”

It was at that moment that I knew I had to ask her the one question I’d been wanting to ask all night.  With a surge of excitement I asked, “DLG, can I be your Daddy… forever?”

She smiled and said, “Yeah.  That would be fine.”

I then fist pumped the air, jumped from my car seat and yelled, “YES!  YOU ARE NOT GOING TO REGRET THIS!  WE ARE GOING TO HAVE AN AWESOME TIME!!!”



Do you take your kid on “dates”?  If you don’t… then you should.  They’re pretty special.


22 responses to “First Dates Are Awkward

  1. Daddy dates are the best-ever for little girls!! So awesome! She will remember those (’cause I’m just assuming you’re gonna take her out again, and again) the rest of her life.

    And if anyone *else* ever takes her on a date (with your permission, of course, in maybe 19 or 50 years) she will always hold them to YOUR Daddy-date standard. If they’re sub-par, “Bye-bye”.

    I am glad she said “Yes.” ::Fist pump for Papa K, Daddy Extraordinaire:: Boo-ya!

  2. That’s a cool post. I have dates with my sons as much as I can and they are such fun.The boys usually chose to go to a cafe: eat and then disappear into the playground for the entire time.

  3. And I’m crying. That’s so awesome. I’m making my husband read this. He takes our girls out all the time, but not on ‘dates.’ This is wonderful.

  4. You’re a rockstar….Sunshine talks about our traditional Valentines date beginning around June. Its the same place every year. Olive Garden, her choice. Last year we took her brother along, she has advised that will not be happening again, ever.

  5. How totally awesome and fun! My husband does that with both our kids and they love it. I went out to breakfast with my daughter just the other day and we talked and she just loved it, has been bugging me to go again! 🙂

    We saw Yogi Bear on Christmas Day.. yea, that movie was a waste of my money.

    But anyway, cute cute post!

  6. That’s awesome man. I’ve been meaning to take my daughter on a date, but I think it would make my wife jealous! Her and I haven’t been on a date alone in a LONG time!

  7. Love the ending! Most people would get weepy. You went for enthusiastic! 🙂

  8. My little girl is 25! How’d that happen…enjoy every moment Papa K, they go to fast. But, it’s nice to know, that even at 25, educated, employed, and on her own, I’m still her Daddy.

    I can’t think of anything else I’d rather be!


  9. You guys are completely adorable. ❤

  10. My daughter had an important exam last month so we gave her a spa night to help her relax.
    She got a massage from her dad(Im a massage therapist) and then my wife drew a Hot bath with candles. She slept great.

  11. I take my kids out on special trips.
    Sometime together sometimes separately.
    its one of the reasons I am so close to my kids.

  12. You sit in a car seat?

    Cool post. My dates with them usually involve all 3, but I know I need to do 1-on-1’s too. Thanks for reminding me.

    And TMI about the butt sweat…

  13. Probably the sweetest thing I’ve ever had the fortune to read.

    Definitely my favorite post of yours.

  14. Every girl should have a first date like this.

  15. I think that is my favorite post you have ever written. Well done, Steve.
    I just have to say that growing up the only girl in a family of boys, my fondest memories are of me and my dad going out on “Daddy Daughter Dates”. We went at least once a month, and no matter what we did first (hitting range balls at the golf course, going to a movie, going shopping, or out to dinner), it always ended with going out for ice cream. It was the one time when I had my Dad’s absolute and full attention for a whole evening. Now, you give DLG your full attention quite a bit right now. But the dates, they’re special. Keep them up in the future. It will keep you close as she grows up into a surly teenager. I have a really close bond with my dad, and I know I owe a lot of that to those dates. 🙂

    Paul and River are going on their first official “date” this weekend. The Snowflake Ball! A daddy daughter dance put on by her school. River’s pretty excited. 🙂

  16. My Daughter loves our Daddy/Daughter dates. They are the best.

  17. I’m a little late to this post, but I just found your blog today through The Real World.

    This is so sweet! I sometimes have “dates” with my son. I used to drive about an hour and then find a hotel. We’d stop at a 7-11, get a bunch of junk food, get a room and stay up all night eating junk food and watching tv. Those were good times.

    He’s almost 13 so the dates are less frequent. Although, I do have a Mommy and Ethan trip planned for next weekend. I’m taking him to NYC for a day/over night trip. I figured I’d get it in now while he’s still cool with spending time with me.

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